We aren’t all wedding etiquette gurus. According to my Dad, only wedding planners pay attention to proper wedding etiquette. That may be the case, but wedding etiquette is important even if you are not a wedding professional. After all, do on to others as they do on to you. So here are our top 5 wedding etiquette faux pas that you should avoid when planning a wedding:
1. Do not specify that you “prefer cash gifts” on your wedding or bridal shower invitation.
Although you may prefer monetary gifts, it is in poor taste to include that on an invitation. It is up to the families of the bride and groom to spread the word (when asked of course).
2. Inviting guests to one of your pre-wedding celebrations where a gift is required and then not inviting them to the wedding is a big no no.
Before the celebrations begin, create your guest list. And if you question whether or not someone will make the final cut, be cautious and hold off on their shower invite until your guest list is finalized.
Asking guests to bring their own booze to your wedding is essentially the same as inviting your friends to your house for a dinner party and asking them to bring their own cocktails. It just isn’t right. This often occurs when the budget is tight. But here are some alternatives to asking guests to bring their own alcohol supply to your wedding.
a) Provide guests with drink tickets
b) Limit the bar offering to only rail shots, domestic beer, and wine
c) Close down the bar during dinner and offer only wine, then reopen the bar when the party begins
d) Get a Special Occasions Permit from the LCBO and purchase your alcohol directly from the liquor store (only certain venues will allow this). Any unopened alcohol can be returned.
4. Expecting guests to go the distance
If you choose to have a destination wedding, be prepared that some guests may not bring a gift. You also need to take into consideration that your bridal party will not only incur the traditional wedding party expenses but also all of the travel costs. So reconsider the pricey bridesmaid dresses and groomsmen attire.
5. Ignoring out-of-towners
Be sure to thank your out-of-town guests and make an effort to speak with them throughout the evening. There is nothing worse than guests travelling countless hours and paying for a hotel room to celebrate with the bride and groom and getting the cold shoulder.
There are always exceptions to the rules, but these tips will help you make decisions with your guests best interest in mind.